Minding Your Business

We have all been in situations where either ones are not minding their own business and or we have not been minding our own business. I have learned over the years to mind my own business. In the end it’s not worth the headache and or mess that comes with it. Sometimes not minding your own tend to get us in situations that’s over our heads. That’s where a real lesson comes in. Some people have to learn the hard way and face whatever consequences that comes with that lesson. I know I have from getting involved when I thought I could be helpful or was not agreeing with certain situations.

It can be very irritating and frustrating when someone feels that they just have to butt in to your conversation. It really tests someone’s nerves when someone has to constantly know what they’re doing where they’re going, and why they’re doing that. But what if you are the one doing it to other people. You don’t want to annoy people, so here’s how you can do that.

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Try not to butt in. Some people might have no trouble minding their own business and could care less about what you’re doing or talking about. But others can’t help it. It’s just natural for them to butt in on everything.

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Ask yourself why you are butting in. Before you go interrupt someone, ask yourself: “Does this concern me?” If what they are doing is going to somehow affect you in anyway, then it does concern you. But if it’s just gossip or someone is going out with their friend, then it doesn’t concern you.

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Walk Away instead of butting in If you figure out that it doesn’t concern you at all, then walk away. Don’t be near the person so you don’t even get a chance to butt in. If it does concern you, then you have a right to listen and interrupt.

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Become oblivious and disinterested. Try to be the least interested in people as possible. Be oblivious to what goes on around others. If you feel the need to interrupt someone or find out what they are doing, think about it first. It’s just like the saying: “Think before you speak”.

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If you do overhear something of note between two people, or a group of people, but the topic does not concern you or affect you in any way, then let the matter stay between the people it concerns.

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Throwback Thursday: Remember The Time by Michael Jackson

Checking out All the great music posts by Music X Infinity! I come here to read about all the new music coming out or already out. Love her Blog 😀

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August 29th, 1958-the day a legend was born. Today, Michael Jackson fans remember the life and legacy of this great man through his music. When I listen to this song, I remember all of the times MJ has made me smile and happy with his incredible talent. With that being said, Happy Birthday Michael and tell me below: What are your favorite MJ memories?

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Nobody Is Perfect

Nobody has a perfect life. Everybody has their own problems. Some people just know how to deal with it in a perfect way. Life can bring on so many challenges and changes. How we choose to deal with them and learning from them, is up to us. I personally have to Thank God for bringing me so much growth, change, happiness, peace, wisdom, guidance and strength.

“Our Negative Coping Behaviors”

There are many possible negative things that can happen to us in a day—from the little things like coffee spilling, being caught in a traffic jam, losing our keys, having people criticize you, to the bigger mishaps like getting into a car accident, losing our valuables, breaking up from relationships, or losing our jobs etc.

Whenever something bad happens to us, it’s easy for us to slip into one of the following behaviors:

Self-victimization. We ask ourselves “Why is this happening to me? Why am I so unlucky? Why doesn’t this happen to anyone else? It’s not fair!”
Reacting in anger. We lash back at the situation, or even people around us, for what’s happening.
Self-blame. We make self-depreciating comments like “Why am I so stupid to have done that?” “Only someone like myself can make such a dumb mistake.”
Slipping into depression. For those of us who have faced cases of depression before, we might fall back if we’re not careful at managing our emotions.
Dejection or giving up. We lose hope, or worse still, we give up. We decide it’s not worth it, that life is out to get us, and we should just stop trying altogether.

“9 Tips to Cope With Negative Situations”

The thing is, as long as you live in this world, you are subjected to the same chaos, the ups and downs, the good and bad, the positives and the negatives of life. You are not the only person facing this.

What sets you apart from others though, is how you choose to deal with this situation. Here are 9 steps to cope with bad situations and create something good out of them:

1. Release your frustrations. Don’t bottle them out because you might just implode. Talk to a friend about it. A listening ear does wonders. Go exercise and release the tension. Journal it out.

2. Realize you are not alone. No matter what you may think, you’re not alone in this. Somewhere around the world, someone else is thinking the exact same thing as you. Someone out there is feeling down and out too, wondering why she is experiencing this. Knowing it’s not just you helps you to get out of a self-victimizing mindset.

3. Being frustrated isn’t going to solve anything. The problem will still remain whether you go berserk at it or whether you think about it calmly. The former will create more problems as your agitation prevents you from making good decisions.

4. Know you always have a choice. Realize no matter what happens, you always have a choice in how you react. While you may not be able to control what happens to you, you can most certainly control your behaviors. You can face the worst things in the world, but if you make the choice not to let yourself be affected by them, you won’t be.

5. Objectify it. An incident is an incident; we’re responsible for the feelings attached. Remove the feelings and look at the situation objectify. This will help us cope a lot better.

6. Focus on what you can do. Action creates empowerment. It brings possibilities. It creates results. By taking action, you are no longer a passive recipient. You are a conscious creator.

7. Ask for help if you need to. It’s okay to ask for help if it makes the situation easier. Remember, you are not alone in this (#2).

8. See it as an obstacle to be overcome. Life is a journey of learning and growth, and everything happens for a reason. Obstacles are the things stopping you from getting your goals, and if you keep overcoming these obstacles, you’ll eventually get what you want.

9. Identify the lesson learned. There are always things to be learned from every situation. For me, I learned to rigorously back-up everything I’m doing now—even saving files in different versions so I can still recover the last version if the latest version ever gets destroyed.

No matter what bad stuff life throws your way, as long as you cope with it constructively, nothing can get you down.

How Do You Cope With Negative Situations?

What has been useful for you? Feel free to share with everyone in the comments area below.

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Beauty Of A Woman

“The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It’s the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows & the beauty of a woman only grows with passing years.”

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Photo Shoot at Swagg Boutique

This is the second time I had the pleasure of doing a photo shoot at my good friend Luther Wauls, owner of Swagg Boutique, located in Gardena, Calif. He always have the latest trends and styles. He carry brand name clothing from dresses, skirts, shorts, jeans, t-shirts, tanks, blouses and accessories all at reasonable prices.

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I enjoyed my shoot! Special Thanks Ronald Jackson (photographer) and my baby girls Nyann and Allyssa who came to help mommy out! Love you two 😍❤
For anyone interested in visiting Swagg Boutique the address is 13967 S Van Ness Ave. Gardena CA 90249
http://www.swaggboutique.com
And on Instagram @swagg_boutique
Thanks for stopping by

FASHION du jour LOVES – OH SNAPBACK!

I Love this post about SnapBacks my sis of http://fashiondujourdaily.wordpress.com wrote about on her Blog with links to check them out! I’m going to order me a couple soon. Thanks sis😁

FASHION du jour

FASHION du jour LOVES - SNAPBACKS #FDJStyle

SuperDuper Hats baseball hat
luisaviaroma.com

Wet Seal baseball hat
wetseal.com

Snapback hat
gojane.com

Kenzo baseball cap
strictlyfitteds.com

I’ve sort of been a fan of hats ever since forever but I’ve had this hangup about my head being too big to wear them.  This is why you rarely see me in them but with hats like these I think I’ll need to rethink my self-consciousness.  My favorite is the the “Compton” hat by GoJane.com.
Which is your fave?
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A FALSE FRIEND

A false friend is someone who is not really your friend. They are the type of people who we sometimes accidentally become friends with. They may want attention, popularity, your belongings or money, or simply a friend at all. So, how do you identify them to prevent a friendship from starting?

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Notice how often a friend tries to embarrass you or make you look bad in front of anyone or everyone, especially after you’ve told, asked, or begged them to stop. This can be a major sign that the person does not care for you as a friend but rather as a source of entertainment, at your expense, of course.
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Observe if the “friend” is mean to you or makes fun of you all the time. A mean friend may try to take advantage of you or possibly push you around. Keep in mind that some friends make fun of you in a joking way, while others do it to lower your self-esteem. Realize what they are doing, and find someone else who appreciates you.
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Notice how often a friend breaks promises that they make to you. Maybe your friend calls you up to see a movie, but then cancels your plans at the last minute, or even worse only a minute or two after making it. This can be a major sign that the person does not want your friendship but only your companionship, and only when they can get nobody better to fill that void.
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Notice how often someone’s friendliness increases whenever they want you to do something for them, and diminishes whenever they don’t want you to do something for them. For example, let’s say you’re going to have an awesome party next weekend. This person may start being nice to you and acting like your friend so you will invite them. Or they start being nice to you and then try to get you to do something you wouldn’t ordinarily do. This is a major sign that they only want to pretend to be your friend as long as there is something you can do for them, but not be your friend if they can’t get something specific for their efforts. Realize that some people will only be your friend if you do something for them. Try to be aware of the fact that this person probably does not want to be your friend, and find someone better to hang out with who actually likes you for who you are.
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Notice how often they ignore you: ignore what you say, ignore your presence, fail to introduce you when they’re making introductions, they offer something to someone nearby but not to you, etc. Some people just like to talk about themselves and not care one bit about you. On the other hand, some people act super nice to you one day, but the next day they act as though they have no idea what-so-ever of who you are. What ever may be the case, you should think twice about being this person’s friend if this is frequently occurring.
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Notice how often the person only behaves friendly to you when no other friends are around. This may mean that the person is talking to you out of boredom and does not actually want to be your friend. Also, if the person constantly leaves without warning or explanation, take this as a hint they do not want to be your friend.
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Notice how often a friend chews you out for making mistakes, or chews you out for bringing their mistakes to their attention but chews you out for making even little mistakes. Some people want to surround themselves with perfectly-behaving people so that they will be perceived as being better than they actually are. It doesn’t work, but lots of people for some reason believe that it does.
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If you find yourself to be in any of the above situations very often at all, it might be time to start seeking other people to spend time with. If you find yourself to be in one or more of the above situations pretty frequently, it is time to start spending time with other people. Remember though that some people have differing personalities and it is usually a good idea to talk to someone about the situation before entirely scrapping your friendship, in case what you have judged to be a false friend is actually not.
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If they do not respect what you like as well as dislike. True friends respect the things that you like so, they would not want to change your field of interest. If you are a person that enjoys attending art galleries, museums, and going to musical theaters, then your friends should support that no matter what. If they try to make you go to rock concerts that are not enjoyable or go to movie theater with noisy people when you don’t want to, perhaps they aren’t a true friend.
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Real friends respect another friends’ moral values. If you have very high moral values, then your friends should either share the same values or respect them. If you do not believe in having sexual intercourse before marriage, then your friends should respect and leave it at that. If they believe in “friends with benefits” and push it onto you, then you should leave them alone and find someone else that does not believe in that mantra.
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Real friends love you just the way you are. If they are trying to change you in a way that makes them accept you, then don’t waste your time on them.
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Friends may turn abnormal especially when they are out of work, so do not decide too soon. However, if they have been acting unfriendly for too long, they may have a hidden grudge.
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Go back in time to analyse what you did to the unreal friend. Did you fail to help them out or manage their expectations? There may be a clue there.

What kind of friend are you to others?

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